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From: RWALKER@TRINITY (Robert S. Walker)
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Subject: Re: (1159) Parents
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Date: 24 Aug 89 23:40:05 GMT
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let me say this:  Your folks already know.  Most of the time when this
has come up, the parents already knew or strongly suspected, but would not
raise the matter thinking that their child did not want it raised.  So it becom
es a round-robbin.  The HIV+ client said nothing not wanting to chance rejectio
n, and the parents said nothing not wanting to raise, for them, a difficult sub
ject and generally not wanting to chance some trouble.  It becomes a mutual con
spiracy of silence.  Again, from what I have seen, everyone is usually much rel
ieved when it all come out in the open.  But you will have to take the initiati
ve, I have never know the parents to do so.  It is always chancy but who knows
your folks better than you do?  Good Luck.