Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: laic!nova.laic!darin@decwrl.dec.com (Darin Johnson) Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Husband as leader in marriage Message-ID: Date: 24 Aug 89 07:02:31 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Organization: Lockheed AI Center, Menlo Park Lines: 28 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu In article iba@ics.uci.edu (Wayne Iba) writes: > >Many people get bent out of shape about this submission thing in marraiges. >Especially in light of how women have been treated in our society and the >recent awareness brought about by the feminist movement. I would propose that a higher commandment would be to love your spouse. The attitude of "you're my wife and you'll do what I say" shows a lack of love. If a man and wife love each other, they will submit to each other. Arguments about who shall submit to who, etc., are rendered rather pointless if the couple loves and respects each other. Granted, there are occasions where an impasse is reached and it is difficult to tell who should submit to who (ie, the wife has a new job in another state, but the husband is perfectly content with his job - a major stumbling block). In these cases, the person who ends up on the 'bad end of the deal' should not be discouraged for himself, but be glad for the other spouse (because they love each other). The advice (commands?) given by Paul are often a good measure of a Christian life. For example, if a wife does not submit to her husband (or vice-versa), or the husband does not love his wife as himself, this is a pretty good sign that one or the other spouse is not living as a Christian should. Darin Johnson (leadsv!laic!darin@pyramid.pyramid.com) We now return you to your regularly scheduled program.