Path: utzoo!attcan!uunet!cs.utexas.edu!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: plb@violin.att.com (Peter L Berghold) Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Husband as leader in marriage Message-ID: Date: 26 Aug 89 21:18:15 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 29 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu [This is a contribution to the discussion on whether a wife should submit to her husband. The particular set of articles quoted here (quotations omitted) were Wayne Iba, iba@ics.uci.edu, whose position was that the wife's submission to the husband is not a stumbling block when you look at how the husband is instructed to act., and Darin Johnson, laic!nova.laic!darin@decwrl.dec.com, who recommended a balanced relationship, where they submit to each other. He particularly suggested that the attitude of "you're my wife and you'll do what I say" shows a lack love. --clh] Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't the Bible command a wife to "submit to you Husband *as unto the Lord*' ? To me this means that a wife is to obey her husband NOT as a chattel but give her husband the respect he *earns* by being a Godly head of household. Certainly if a husband orders his wife to do something that is unscriptural she is under no obligation to obey him. Likewise if he is just ordering her about out of orneryness. The Bible further commands husbands to "love your wife as Christ loves the Church.." . It works both ways. If a husband is loving his wife the way that Christ loves the Church he is not ordering her about like a chattel. He is also giving her the respect that she needs and deserves. After all husbands, your wife can do something you can't: carry a baby for nine months and give birth to it! :-) A fellow servant in Christ, Pete Peter L. Berghold, AT&T, HRSAG, UUCP: att!violin!plb