Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: thompson@athos.rutgers.edu (Marge Thompson) Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Husband as leader in marriage Message-ID: Date: 29 Aug 89 06:42:23 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Organization: Rutgers Univ., New Brunswick, N.J. Lines: 29 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu Like Bonnie, I constantly read this newsgroup and never get involved in responses. I have responded only once before but I feel I must respond at this point also. Marriage is a two-way street. I believe God is instructing us that once we become man and wife, we are one. He tells us in Genesis 2:24 "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife and they become one" (GN). Becoming one to me means you are coming together as a total and full person with input from both sides. Marriage cannot work if the husband and wife go their separate ways. My husband and I have been married 31 years and one of the rules of our household (which we made before we were married and which still applies to our marriage) is that we make decisions together as a team, as "one" which God has instructed us to do. We do not make major decisions without checking with each other. We discuss the problems of the house together and reach a mutual decision or agreement. We do not enter into major decisions without thought and prayer. I am not saying that each decision is the right one, but we know the decision we made together is both our responsibilities and that makes things even easier if it turns out that it was not the right choice. So, our theory of what the bible tells us regarding submission, or marriage is all summed up in Genesis 2:24 and if its worked for 31 years for us, it can work for others. In Christian love, Marge Thompson