Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!mailrus!csd4.csd.uwm.edu!cs.utexas.edu!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: b8!paulj@uunet.uu.net ( Joey Paul x4129 ) Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Husband as leader in marriage Message-ID: Date: 1 Sep 89 07:54:59 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Organization: Intergraph Corp. Huntsville, Al Lines: 29 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu In article , plb@violin.att.com (Peter L Berghold) writes: [stuff deleted] > don't respect your husbands, why did you marry him? If both partners WORK at ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ > providing the needs of each other, they won't need to be reminded of EPH 5:32. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ I agree whole-heartedly with your message. What stood out to me was the above. My wife and I have found out over several years of marriage that working toward meeting your partners need, as opposed to being concerned about having *your* needs met ("What can I do for you" vs. "What can you do for me") can totally transform a marriage. If I am meeting my wife's emotional and physical needs then I won't have to request, or "demand" anything from her - she *wants* to please me. Someone said to me once "If you want to be treated like a king, treat her like a queen." It may be kind of corny but it's true. Another famous man once said, "Give and it shall be given unto you...". It becomes an endless cycle (usually broken by an occasional fuss or fight, but the making up part sure is fun...) -- Joey Paul ...uunet!ingr!b8!dj4104!paulj (UUCP) ( 205 ) 772-4129 b8!dj4104!paulj@ingr.com (INTERNET) * Intergraph Corp., One Madison Ind. Park, Huntsville, Ala, 35807-4201 *