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From: mandel@granite.cr.bull.com (Mark Mandel)
Newsgroups: alt.callahans
Subject: Re: A lurker with a problem
Message-ID: <1990Jan18.183705.22246@granite.cr.bull.com>
Date: 18 Jan 90 18:37:05 GMT
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Reply-To: mandel@granite.cr.bull.com (Mark Mandel)
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Silverblack pushes his chair away from the table and stretches.  

"I would find it easier to feel your situation and try to think about
it if I knew why you and your SO don't feel like getting formally
married.  Is it that you don't like having pieces of paper on file,
with their resulting legal effects?  Are you (either or both of you)
allergic to the religious aspects of marriage that you were brought up
with or exposed to, or perhaps to the states of some marriages you've
seen?  

You may be able to find sympathetic clergyfolk, either of established
or "alt." religions, who will marry you in a way that embodies your
and Corey's sense of what you want your relationship to be.  Such folk
may also be willing to help with the legal side ("marriage" as defined
by the state) and the contractual/practical side (your prospective
employer's requirements."

Silverblack looks down into his glass.  "Just enough."  Up to the
chalk mark.  "To your success, friend!"  CRASH!
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	-- Mark Mandel          (InterNet: Mandel@granite.cr.bull.com)

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