Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!cs.utexas.edu!uwm.edu!rpi!image.soe.clarkson.edu!news From: stadnism@clutx.clarkson.edu (Steven Stadnicki,,,) Newsgroups: alt.callahans Subject: Saying stuff while I can (re: Empaths and lots of other stuff) Message-ID: <1990Jan18.192925.26315@sun.soe.clarkson.edu> Date: 18 Jan 90 19:29:25 GMT References: Sender: news@sun.soe.clarkson.edu Reply-To: stadnism@clutx.clarkson.edu Organization: Clarkson University, Potsdam, NY Lines: 46 From article , by gilly@bucsf.bu.edu (Gilly Rosenthol): [lost of stuff deleted] > Well, I care about all of you. But that doesn't mean I *understand* > all of you, or know how you feel. I care terribly about Jilara - but > I have had a very happy, innocent life. How can I possibly really > know how she feels? I am very happy to be friends with the Tabbifli - > but I can't know how it feels to have a family like hers. I can't > know how it feels to have a wife leave me, or a sister die. Is caring > enough? I don't know, but it's all I can do for now." Gilly shakes > her head ruefully. Gilly, you're almost right on this... not only is caring enough, caring is all that Is. At least, I hope so... as I put it (or will put it) to a friend who is going through troubled times, "I cannot imagine your situation... I can't understand it, so I can't help. All I can do is to be. I am always here if you need me. May that be enough..." And with that, I turn to face the room, adding: "and that quote holds for anyone here. I am ALWAYS (or very nearly) willing to talk, to help if I can, to simply be if I cannot. Sometimes, just knowing that there's someone out there helps a lot... you can try reaching me via: stadnism@clutx.clarkson.edu though I may not be here for long, depending on what happens (in part, what happens today. We'll see...) I would give a snail mail address, but I'm not certain of that, either... if I get one that I'm guaranteed of having for more than a week or two, I'll try and get that to the net. I'm not always great about writing back quickly, but I'll promise to try and get around to it..." I turn again to sit down, muttering "sigh... one of these days I'll get around to telling my problems..." Steven Stadnicki stadnism@clutx.clarkson.edu "The happy ending cannot come in the middle of the story." "But what if there isn't a happy ending?" "There are no happy endings... because nothing ever ends." > +--------------------+-------------------------------------------------------+ > | Gilly Rosenthol |"Don't dream it, be it" -The Rocky Horror Picture Show | > | gilly@bucsb.bu.edu |"On ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur. | > | | L'essentiel est invisible aux yeux." -Le Petit Prince | > +--------------------+-------------------------------------------------------+