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From: AHW2@PSUVM.BITNET (That Crazy Tyger!!!)
Newsgroups: soc.couples,alt.romance
Subject: Re: open relationships
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Date: 17 Jan 90 16:09:48 GMT
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>     My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months (Everybody sing
>Happy Anniversary).  Her parents think she is too young to be "going steady"
>with just one boy (She's turning 16 in three days).                      s are

How old are you?  In her parents eyes, they may be right, because from what
I infer, you are about two years older, at least?

>she wants to make sure that I am the guy for her.  The old "If it's meant to
>be,
>nothing will change that" addage.  I told her I didn't have a problem with
>that, and I don't (If I keep telling myself that, I might start believeing
>it).  Anyway, she's going to start dating other guys, maybe one a year, tops.

Not to put kill your hopes, but usually, I have seen it many times and
experience it, when this situation happens, they don't end up coming back.
Also, you aren't going to wait.  And when she reaches college, her attitude
will change.

>She also said she didn't mind if I dated other girls at college, as long as
>I told her about it, never brought them home, and didn't date any of her
>friends. 8)  So, now that you know my life story, any comments? suggestions?
>comforting thoughts?  I'd appreciate them.  Use the news net, or e-mail..
>I'm not fussy.. thanks
>
>                                --Curt

She is going to date whomever and not tell you about it, but you have to
tell her.  I see this as a lack of communications.  She isn't going to be
fully communicating with you.

I, personally, think you should sit down and have a long talk about what
you two want out of life, and expect from each other.  Talk it out, so
that you know what to look for, what to do, and what might happen.  Make
sure you cover all considerations.

This world is not black and white.  The line, "if it meant to be, nothing
will change" is b.s.  The minute you open your options, things have changed
already.

Hobbes
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Alan H. Wagmeister
PSU Center for Academic Computing / CAC Staff Student Consultant
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