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From: achowe@tiger.waterloo.edu (anthony howe)
Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.romance
Subject: Re: Morality and kissing...
Keywords: morality, kissing
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Date: 18 Jan 90 14:08:24 GMT
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>> You are on a bus, going home from either school or work, and 
>> are approached by a reasonably attractive member of the appropriate 
>> sex who politely asks the question "excuse me, but would you 
>> mind terribly if i were to kiss you?".  
>> 
>> What is yourresponse?

Dumb founded. My first reaction would be the question:

"Is this some kind of joke?" or
"Me? You must want this guy beside me."

>Unless there are real extenuating circumstances (see my posting on the
>dancing man in soc.singles), I do not kiss strangers.  Especially
>strangers that come up and ask me if they can.  Especially not while
>on a bus.
>
>However, this has NOTHING whatsoever to do with morality.  I am not
>avoiding kissing them because I don't want to appear a slut or
>preserve my reputation or whatever silly moral reason you want to pin
>on me.  I simply consider it bad taste (no pun intended). 

But the scenario  is meant to address morality and what is more moral
or traditional than manners. Like the man not pick up his fork till the
first lady at the table does so. Keeping your palms but not your elbows
on the dinner table. 

I too may fined it in bad taste but then I'm highly condition that
way with of the polite, well mannered, and honourable gentleman. 
Just wait till my mother hears about or sees the ear studs my roomates
and I got last week  :) :) :)

I think the thrust of the scenario is meant to ask why do people
show so little affection in public. One answer I can that of, which
seems to apply to myself, is that I always feel envy for a guy who has
a girl friend who he can kiss, hug, hold, laugh, and talk with in 
public. Every time I see it I sort of ask myself when's my turn? I have
a feeling that public shows of affection may be trimmed down because
others remember the times the felt the same. Of course I could be just
grabbing at straws.


- ant

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