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From: spudcrl@wpi.wpi.edu (A man and his sword)
Newsgroups: alt.romance,soc.couples
Subject: open relationships
Message-ID: <6902@wpi.wpi.edu>
Date: 18 Jan 90 15:30:13 GMT
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Organization: Worcester Polytechnic Institute, Worcester, Mass.
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In article <90017.110948AHW2@PSUVM.BITNET> AHW2@PSUVM.BITNET (That Crazy Tyger!!!) writes:
>How old are you?  In her parents eyes, they may be right, because from what
>I infer, you are about two years older, at least?

  Good infering, I'm 18.


>>it).  Anyway, she's going to start dating other guys, maybe one a year, tops.
>
>Not to put kill your hopes, but usually, I have seen it many times and
>experience it, when this situation happens, they don't end up coming back.

   Ever heard of the exception to the rule?

>Also, you aren't going to wait.  And when she reaches college, her attitude
>will change.

   You'd be surprised.

>>She also said she didn't mind if I dated other girls at college, as long as
>>I told her about it, never brought them home, and didn't date any of her
>>friends. 8)
>>                                --Curt
>
>She is going to date whomever and not tell you about it, but you have to
>tell her.  I see this as a lack of communications.  She isn't going to be
>fully communicating with you.

   This one's my fault.  I forgot to mention that she will be telling me
  about the guys she meets.  However, neither of us have any intentions
  of getting serious with anyone else.  For her, it's to please her
  parents and ease her own mind.  For me, it's just a formality.


>I, personally, think you should sit down and have a long talk about what
>you two want out of life, and expect from each other.  Talk it out, so
>that you know what to look for, what to do, and what might happen.  Make
>sure you cover all considerations.

  Something I've noticed about all the responses I've gotten is that
  they all suggest that I communicate more with her.  I'm going home
  next weekend to see her, the train fare from her folks being a sort of
  birthday present.  I think I'll give it a shot.

>This world is not black and white.  The line, "if it meant to be, nothing
>will change" is b.s.  The minute you open your options, things have changed
>already.

  My father once said that the only constant in life is change.  I'm 
  beginning to think that he's right.

>
>Hobbes
>-----
>Alan H. Wagmeister
>PSU Center for Academic Computing / CAC Staff Student Consultant
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  	Thanks for your consideration/response.

					--Curt

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