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From: gisle@ifi.uio.no (Gisle Hannemyr)
Newsgroups: alt.sex
Subject: Re: exit
Message-ID: <2503@ifi.uio.no>
Date: 17 Jan 90 09:29:08 GMT
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In-reply-to: cswaf@uoft02.utoledo.edu's message of 12 Jan 90 20:56:41 GMT

cswaf@uoft02.utoledo.edu wrote:
> I have been involved in a relationship with a man for 5 years now
> and have enjoyed it very much, except for the fact that he is married.
> I have found myself lately wanting a more involved relationship (i.e.
> more than 5-6 hours a week ). I love him very much but he also loves
> his wife.  [...] Well he says that I am
> stupid that sex between two people never lasts very long, that you get 
> bored or one of the two people loses some of their sexual desire and
> so the other person is left wanting more all the time. He says that I 
> should just face reality and enjoy sex with him and find another man
> to fill in the remaining times I need someone for movies, dinners, more
> sex etc. He also says that most people don't enjoy sex, and that the fact
> that I do and want to experience it to the fullest is going to cause
> me problems because I'll find that most men don't put that much importance
> on sexual relationships. And he also swears that men hit 40 (he's 44) and
> start getting very tired and women do around 35 (I'm 33)... the way
> I feel I can't believe I only have two years before I find knitting
> more fulfilling ? So any comments?

A more polite person than myself would call the sweeping generalizations
you lover has been feeding you "slightly misleading".  I would call them
"lies".  And when he lies about this, he probably would lie about other
things as well.

- gisle hannemyr  (Norwegian Computing Center)
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