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From: SEK@PSUVM.psu.edu (Sonja Kueppers)
Newsgroups: alt.sex
Subject: Re: Body count. . .
Message-ID: <90018.145619SEK@PSUVM.BITNET>
Date: 18 Jan 90 19:56:19 GMT
References: <70181@tiger.oxy.edu> <690@banyan.UUCP>
Organization: What organization?
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In article <690@banyan.UUCP>, gil@banyan.UUCP (Gil Pilz@Eng@Banyan) says:
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>Count me in. Only there's a couple problems. Like the fact that the
>more people you include the less mobile you become. Sure, two people
>can move if somebody's job gets transfered, but six ? You'd have to
>dig in somewhere.

Yes, but I think that with a larger family, there is also less constant
NEED for everyone to have a job, so if one person is suddenly out of a
job, the others can pick up the slack until that person finds work.

>And what about kids ? Do you track paternity ? What
>happens if the worst comes about and the family splits ? Who has what
>say in how the kids are raised, where they go to school, when they
>have to been in by etc. etc ?

Agh!  Divorce!  Evil!
Pardon me.  Being a young romantic, I suppose that I refuse to believe
that divorce could ever happen to me...a viewpoint which I am convinced
will keep it from happening to me.
My concept for a group marriage is one in which the various members
are free to come and go at need.  For example, if a family member really
wanted to take a job with a firm in California and we lived in Maine,
I wouldn't think that constituted "leaving us," unless they never wanted
to see us again.  Sure, they could still see the kids.  I would expect
that the rest of us could visit him/her and vice versa.
For one thing, I would anticipate that in a group marriage, each individual
would not be as important to the emotional well-being of the others as
they are in pair relationships.  Yes, they would be missed...but it wouldn't
be as necessary for them to physically BE THERE.

>Are we talking one _huge_ bed or a bunch
>of normal sized beds ? Can I build a practice studio in the basement ?

I like the concept of turning a whole room into a bed.  Lots of mattresses
on the floor (or some other appropriate substance), feather beds, pillows,
blankets, whatever...could be strewn all over the place.  All that is
required is a bed-like substance as the base.
(Karen and I aren't sure our roomates are going to like this idea, but
 we're thinking of proposing it next year...)
-Sonja
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