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From: gentry@kcdev.UUCP (Art Gentry)
Newsgroups: alt.sex
Subject: Re: Premature Ejaculation short and sweet
Message-ID: <1032@kcdev.UUCP>
Date: 18 Jan 90 15:53:52 GMT
References: <10035.25b4c9cc@vax1.cc.lehigh.edu>
Reply-To: gentry@kcdev. (Art Gentry)
Organization: AT&T Kansas City, Mo.
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In article <10035.25b4c9cc@vax1.cc.lehigh.edu> csac181@vax1.cc.lehigh.edu writes:
>
>	I have only recently come to terms with the fact that when I
>have sex I ejaculate prematurely.  I am now quite sure this is the
>problem and that it has been that way since day one.  
>
>	So far in talking to a few people about it (it was very
>difficult to admit to others) the women, if they can muster a response
>say not to worry about it, (easier said than done) while the each have
>there own useless suggestion.
>
>	It is difficult to ignore because I can never judge the
>intensity with which my partner is reacting.  It is quite important to
>me that my partner experiance as much pleasure as possible and I
>feelings of inferiority.  She is still with me so I guess it can't be
>that important.
>
>	Comments?  My addres is:    CSAC181@VAX1.CC.LEHIGH.EDU

First off, you are definetly on the right track when you say "quite important
to me that my partner experience as much pleasure as possible", however, on
the wrong track when you state "and I feelings of inferiority".  I too have
had the problem of premature ejaculation, and yes it did bother me, and yes
I too got lots of "useless suggestions" from my friends.  But, I'd be care-
full about defining "useless".  Many of the techniques for helping p.e. do
work for many.  Just didn't work for me, and I take it from your comment, that
they don't work for you either.  The way I "cured" mine, was to basicly
forget my pleasures during foreplay and concentrate on hers.  Lots of oral
and manual foreplay, LOTS!  My rule of thumb is, "the lady always cums
first" <yes, I am a male chauvanist here! :-}>.  Once I was sure she was
satisfied at least once, I'd then let her tend to me, while I kept up
keeping her 'tingling'.  I found that by concentrating hard on pleasing
her, I thought and felt less and less of what was happening to me.  Event-
ually, I was able to last longer and longer, and can now enjoy what she is
doing for me, without quite as much worry about going over the edge too soon.
I still don't last as long as I'd like to, but with practice, it's getting
better and better! :-}


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