Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!cs.utexas.edu!tut.cis.ohio-state.edu!aristotle.cis.ohio-state.edu!welch From: welch@aristotle.cis.ohio-state.edu (Arun Welch) Newsgroups: alt.sex Subject: Re: Group Marriages Message-ID: Date: 18 Jan 90 23:14:00 GMT References: <70587@tiger.oxy.edu> <7476@chaph.usc.edu> Sender: news@tut.cis.ohio-state.edu Organization: OSU-LAIR Lines: 47 In-reply-to: avenell@koh-sun5.usc.edu's message of 18 Jan 90 22:23:29 GMT >1) Competition. When dealing with such an intimate type of >realationship, the involvement of more than one spouse will develop >striff, dissent, jealous, envy, and greed. Why? What's special about n>2 that will cause this that won't cause it in n=2? >Furthermore, the >individuals will invariably be placed on a performance basis. As in, >the one who puts out the best will derive the greatest favoritism. You gotta wierd view of a relationship if you think you're competing with the other person(s) in it. Do you really compare your SO's performance relative to yours? Performance at what in particular? Cooking? Child-rearing? Sex? >2) Commitment. The most significant feature and benefit of marriage >is commitment. If there are more than one spouse, one cannot say, "I >commitment to you". Assuming that you mean "I commit to you", why can't one commit to more than one person? Commitment doesn't have to be exclusive. Are you only committed to one of your parents? > Conflict of interest will soon become the standard for the participants. Why? >3) Direction. Decision-making processes will be skewed by the great >quantities of opinions. How does more than one differing opinion skew the decision-making more than just one? Besides, multiple opinions allows for more people to present ideas. One would assume that some sort of decision-making apparatus would be generated, just as it is for two people. >This will hinder crucial decisions which >invariably arise in the future, for example, child development, >finances, sexual relationships (related topic like birth control and >abortion), etc. No more than just two people. In fact, if me and my SO disagree on something like birth control, chances are we're not going to have sex. If there were more than one other person involved, chances are at least one of us will get laid.... the more people you have, the more chances you have of finding someone who's compatible with your current thinking. ...arun