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From: Gary.Bewell@f34.n129.z1.fidonet.org (Gary Bewell)
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Subject: Re: ms
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Date: 1 Jun 90 15:40:52 GMT
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By now you are probably out of the 'hellish' situation with your mother.

As others have said, I feel your mother needs psychological help.
Her problems can't be blamed totally on MS.  Her behaviour is that
same as that exhibited by 'normal' people.  She is milking her
'disability'.

I have no idea what support systems are common in the States.  Here
in Canada, we generally have social workers available through the
MS Societies as well as peer and spouse groups.  At the medical
level, we have psychologists who specialize in helping people with
chronic neurological disorders, and occupational therapists that
could assess what a person with MS can do.

Reading between the lines of your messages, I think you still love
your mother even though she has been a royal pain.  My concern
would be for your father.  I can just imagine the guilt trip that
has been laid on him.  It probably goes along the line of "If it
wasn't for you, I wouldn't be in a wheelchair.", etc.

I think he could really benefit from a spouse support group.  At
least then he could vent some of the frustrations that he must have
pent up inside him.

I hope you are now enjoying your new home.  Good luck.

   Gary

 # Origin: T.P.V. - Calgary, Alberta, Canada (NETWORK 8:7500/198)

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