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From: Mitch.Turbin@p0.f71.n343.z1.fidonet.org (Mitch Turbin)
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Subject: Re: H E L L O !!!
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[This is from the Silent Talk Conference]

Yo ho Vixen,
 
Thanks for your reply. You asked how I deal with "it all." Well, I'd 
say that, like you, I rely on assertiveness to get through to the 
people that are reachable, and I use my feet to get around when and 
where I can to have as wide a variety of contacts as possible. Since 
so many are indeed, consumers of my energy, rather than contributers 
and supporters, I've learned to set limits on how much energy to put 
out in any particular direction (i.e. move on to other people). There 
was a time when I devoted a considerable amount of energy to participating 
with deaf and deaf blind people, but I realized that the returns weren't 
always supporting the investment. Variety thus is not only the spice 
of life, it insures that the staples are more available too.
 
I'm curious about where you are, both geographically and in terms 
of stages of disability and life. I'm in Seattle, tho NY was home for 
most of my life. And tho in my 30's, I'm back to being single and 
a student again. That makes a big difference in the kind of people 
I meet and the kind of support system that I have. I think if I was 
younger or older, or had my family around, I might be more (less?) 
patient. What do you think about that? Or do you think it's really 
a matter of personality? I mean, it's interesting that there are such 
different styles of coping with the difficulties of communication. 
Also, of course, there are the inevitable sexual politics, with the 
attendant complexities there.
 
til soon,
Mitch 

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