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From: era@ncar.ucar.edu (Ed Arnold)
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Subject: Re: Being mistaken as gay
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Date: 7 Jul 90 05:00:30 GMT
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Index Number: 9058

In article <12532@bunker.UUCP> Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.org writes:
|Index Number: 8947
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|I think you must be a "white man" -- talking with a forked
|tongue!

It would be more correct to refer to the placement of my tongue
(in cheek), rather than its configuration.

|When you grow up, you might realize  that the Personality that
|presents via a BBS-KEYBOARD-CONFERENCE is very different to
|almost every other situation.
|
|If you ever read other conferences, then get to meet the real
|people, you'd be surpised just how mistaken your "imagination"
|really was.

Some observations:

1. I am not planning on growing up.  I am hoping to go the other way.

2. Yes, I am well aware of this phenomenon.  I've been working in
   the net-news/e-mail medium for 8 years.

3. Perhaps you are trying to divorce your *real* personality (whatever
   that might be) from what you appear to be on this bulletin board?
   Why IS it that you have (so far) ignored more direct communication?

|But getting back on topic:
|
|Reasons that I was mistaken as "gay" was that I did not use nor
|refer to women as sex objects.   This meant that if a woman
|valued the sexual sterotype so much that I failed to react to her
|"well-proven" tests, then I was not one of the 95% heterosexual
|men -- so she thought.

I would hope that the members of this and other disability conferences
would have risen above labels.

|In my years of work with delinquents (all ages) and disabled men,
|I've always been puzzled about reinforcing them into the
|tradional male sex role.
|
|But I think that we don't have any feminists in this conference -
|neither male feminists nor female feminists.

Bull.  Of course there are feminists here.  One of them is currently
communicating to you.
--
Ed Arnold * NCAR * POB 3000, Boulder, CO 80307-3000 * 303-497-1253(w)
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"See, the human mind is kind of like ... a pinata.  When it breaks open,
there's a lot of surprises inside."	--Jane Wagner/Lily Tomlin