Path: utzoo!utgpu!news-server.csri.toronto.edu!mailrus!umich!samsung!know!zaphod.mps.ohio-state.edu!brutus.cs.uiuc.edu!psuvax1!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: howard@ncr-sd!ncrlnk!ncrwat!53iss6.waterloo.ncr.com Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Sex before marriage question Message-ID: Date: 5 Jul 90 05:05:30 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Organization: NCR Canada Ltd, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada. Lines: 43 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu In article you write: >A girlfriend of mine is teaching young people (approx. 11-14,15) in a >Sunday school class. She is a college graduate, and is 23 yrs old, living >on her own. She got into teaching that sex before marriage is wrong, they >were on that particular theme and she got asked if she was a virgin. How >do you think she should have answered the question? She didnt know what to >say and we had different ideas on how she should answer. Please reply to >me directly, as I dont subscribe to this list. > >Thanks, >Teresa The best response that I can come up with at this moment is related to her freedom of privacy... how about "Well, I could answer your question, but if I was not a virgin, then everyone would think I was being a hypocrit, instead of just a human who can make mistakes. This is something that is private... God knows whether I am or not and he is the only one we need to impress".... or something along those lines. You see even if she is a virgin, why should she share intimate secrets with others, even to prove a point? The children of course are being typically mischievious. If they respect her and she says she is not a virgin, then they are given the message to go ahead themselves; in addition there will be the game of " who was she with " for a while. If they don't respect her and she says she is a virgin, it won't matter, and if she is not, it will just re-inforce their disrespect. What it all boils down to is it is none of their business, but how you say that will be extremely important. -- / / / / / / / / / / :-(I Think, Therefore I Am, I Think :-) / / / / / / / / / / / Howard.Steel@Waterloo.NCR.COM NCR CANADA LTD. - 580 Weber St. N / / (519)884-1710 Ext 570 Waterloo, Ont., N2J 4G5 / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / / [I think it depends a lot on the nature of the class. I can imagine situations where matters of this kind of discussed, and where the teacher should be willing to take about matters that are sensitive for them just as the students are. But that is not the typical Sunday school situation. --clh]