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From: Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.org (Greg See-Kee)
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Subject: Re: counseling
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Date: 25 Jul 90 16:28:23 GMT
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 SB> What you're saying is that persons who are not disabled are 
 SB> incapable of providing encouragement, and that persons who ARE 
 SB> disabled are always infallible in deciding whether a disabled 
 SB> person can accomplish a given task.

I think that very few people know what "empathy of loss" is,
until they have experienced the loss of a loved one.   In my
own caes, I still have not experienced the loss of a loved
one.

As many readers of my messages can plainly see, I really am
not the best counsellor for someone undergoing traditional
bereavement.

There are several types of counselling.  Not every type
suits every person all the time.  My approach is
rational-emotive.  Others use more Gestalt, or more
behavioural approaches.

Currently all rehabilitation training & rehabilitation
treatment is Socio-illiterate".  What this means is that
practically everything being dished out to the clients by
the so-called professional people, does not suit most
people, most of the time.

Ideally, the therapist should measure the psycho-sociology
ofthe client, then custom-mould the matching treatment
process.  The flaw in the whole step is that very few, if
any, professional do-gooders have the ability to mould
themselves for the wide variety & the overwhelming numbers
of clients.   For a quick undersatanding of this process, I
suggest you see the WOODY ALLEN movie or video-tape:
"CHAMELEON".

 SB> Your sentence reads much better without either of the 
 SB> DISABLED's in it. 

Being disabled has some similarities to other human traumas.
But it is different, just as death, car-smashes, stroke,
being-raped, losing-home are all very different.
Experience shows that specialist counsellors, adapted to
each speciality, are the best.  Our "ideals" unfortunately
often clash with reality.

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