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From: Anne.Willis@f34.n129.z1.fidonet.org (Anne Willis)
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Subject: Re: PRIDE & PUNISHMENT
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Date: 25 Jul 90 16:29:58 GMT
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Tom, I read your message several times while I was trying to think
of what I wanted to tell you.  First I don't think you should feel
like you're complaining.  It is hard to deal with things at times.
Myself, I don't compare my illness against others.  Whatever you
are suffering and feeling is unto you alone.  Others can sympatize
with you and a great many others DO know what you are going
through, especially if they have same or similar curcumstances.
But only YOU know what you are feeling inside.  I've had people
around me say (for example) they have the flu or someting, and then
they say, " Oh, I shouldn't complain to you, after all you've gone
though much worse".  And I tell them they shouldn't compare their
problem to mine. Because for them it IS a problem, and just because
I've been though some tough times does not diminish their illness
in the least.  I know that at times it might be easy to tell
yourself that you shouldn't complain because there are people worse
off than you, but I think that's not being fair to yourself. You
should let yourself feel what ever you feel without remorse. It's
not so bad if you let yourself feel sad or angry.  I just
personally believe that you need that as long as you don't let it
become all consuming. I guess what I'm trying to tell you is to not
be so hard on yourself.  I hope you understand what I'm saying as
sometimes I'm not sure if I clearly state what I'm trying to say.
			     Take care, Anne
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