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From: Guy.Fisher@f539.n157.z1.fidonet.org (Guy Fisher)
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Subject: Re: Checking in
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Date: 28 Jul 90 04:17:50 GMT
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[This is from the Spinal Injury Conference]

 
  > I've been doing GREAT. I've been having a wonderful love affair,
  > complete with GREAT SEX and romantic nights ... I hate being a quad but I
  > love life, especially right now.
 
     Jack --
 

This is a rather personal topic, I know, so feel free to tell me to
get lost ... However, this is probably one of the most stressful
aspects of becoming a quadriplegic (at least for me, and I am
willing to bet for many others, too!), that is the prospect of
romantic, intimate, and especially sexual relationships.  There is
very little information about not only the physical aspects of a
sexual relationship, but perhaps more importantly the emotional
processes involved in establishing one.

I am dating a girl now, and believe that eventually these issues
will arise (so to speak).  I think I am fairly prepared to deal
with them (we communicate very well), but there are still many
fears and apprehensions.  It would really help if you might comment
on some of the fears both you and your partner faced, and some of
the processes you went through in overcoming them. Certainly no
"details" are necessary (unless you feel they are appropriate), and
you may feel free to reply by NetMail (fido 1:157/539).

Again I will certainly understand if you choose not to elaborate on
this very personal subject.  Regardless, I must say that I am very
happy you are enjoying your life.  I hope it continues to go well.

Thanks,

-- Guy M. Fisher

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