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From: Greg.See-Kee@f631.n712.z3.fidonet.org (Greg See-Kee)
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Subject: Re: Accepting Disabilities
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Date: 9 Aug 90 19:53:51 GMT
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>>> I am constantly getting myself into trouble
>>> through my lack of acceptance.

Yes, same here.  Not only that I over-estimate what I can
handle, but that that other "Light & Bright" non-accepters
refuse to believe that I am in fact physically etc impaired.

 AB> I get extremely fatigued and
 AB> uncoordinated from just a tiny bit of walking.

No-one seems to mention this - WEIGHT-GAIN!  So my lack of
exercise should mean that I need to eat less food.  But
everyone, including myself, cannot adjust to the new eating
restrictions.   I'm still not sure whether or not the extra
effort to move my 11 stone (used to be 9 stone) about is
burning up more energy.

The weight-gain or my disability creates more fatigue.  The
joys of being physical are removed from me.  Plus my old
clothes no longer fit.  Even my work-overalls & boots are
useless, because I also lack the physical prowess to use
these clothes the way they were meant to be used.

>>      Why am I whining and bitching to you people?  Probably          
>>  because it's "safe" for me to do so.                                

 AB>  I must say though, that I don't see what you are saying as 
 AB>  whining and bitching. 

The "nice" Light_&_Bright brigade don't like any suggestion
that full-on reality exists.  Most people are so scared of
reality, that they will do anything & everything to deny
reality.

I don't think anything is wrong in saying "The Emperor has
no clothes on!" -- if that is reality from the way you see
it.   I remember how Sigmund Freud was publicly forced to
deny the existence of Incest.  One day, "Freedom of Speech"
will become a reality.   And describing our reality will be
allowed - one day.

>>  and I have no
>>   one to blame but myself.                                           

 AB>  You
 AB>  made a mistake.  I make the same sort of mistake all the time. 

In my world, it is an undeclared sin to admit to being less
than perfect.  I'm glad that Australia is really a Christian
nation, where it is ok to admit to sin, to not be perfect.
Mistakes are mistakes, but the person is ok. Sins are sins,
but the sinner is ok.  Sometimes sinners are imprisoned/
fined/ etc, but in Australia, they are not denied the right
to life.
 
 AB>  But one thing I know for sure, it ain't my fault.
     
In my case, the lawyers were very keen to "blame someone!".
My attitude was, privately: "So what?  I've got the rest of
my life to try & do something sensible now.   And because
I'm a volunteer to this life, I have now to decide how else
I am going to volunteer the rest of my life."
     
After my years with the Australian Army, I found that
"conscipts" were unreliable people.  The best people were
the volunteers.   So I volunteered for Vietnam, and I am now
volunteering to live out my remaining life.

...     Xpress Yourself!

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