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From: Rusty.Ferguson@p2.f13.n123.z1.fidonet.org (Rusty Ferguson)
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Subject: Re: Doctors
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Date: 21 Aug 90 14:42:54 GMT
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AB>always made it clear that it's my choice.  Some I've gone
AB>for, some I haven't.

I've never felt that much in control.  He did seem to ask how I felt about 
one drug but didn't really explain it much.  I should ask more questions, 
and the right ones I guess.  I'll figure this Dr. stuff out yet.  >Grin<

AB>first became important.  Perhaps I am grasping at straws
AB>here, trying to make it okay, but like you said, the doc is
AB>human and so are we and it sounds like ultimately the info
^^^^^^^^^

Yes I guess that is it.   We've both done things wrong, he should not have 
told me my blood test were "okay" when there were indications of lupus 
present in them.  That was very poor judgement on his part and now I have 
trouble trusting him.  He didn't really lie as there was nothing to be 
immediately alarmed about but I sure don't consider "okay" the proper 
statement to make.  Now I don't call about blood test unless I have a 
specific question, he is not going to give me any real information over the 
phone and if there was some urgent concern, he will call me.

AB>I think about this too.  Sometimes I wish for more human,
AB>emotional involvement from my doctor but then when I think

I don't really need that, I need understanding of my fears and for the 
doctor to understand that withholding information from me will cause me to 
go off the deep end.  But part of the problem was just bad luck.  Before he 
referred me to the rheumatologist he said, I really don't like to do this. 
I wish I had more time, but I've got an emergency and have to leave.  I 
guess he wanted to sit down and talk about possible lupus and break it to me 
slowly.  I'm sure he is aware of my rheumatologist bad bedside manner.  He 
was caught between a rock and a hard place.   I feel I'm getting the best 
medical care that I ever have.  I have to give this doc credit for 
suspecting what four others seemed to have missed over the last 15 years. 
If we ever get to communicating better well have 50% of this battle 
whipped!

AB>diseases and not people.  It must be a constant battle for
AB>doctors to keep the balance.

And the complex puzzle we sometimes hit them with.

AB> Take it easy....but take it!

Good approach!  
 

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