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From: willey@udel.edu (Edward V Willey)
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Subject: Taking of last name
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Date: 17 Aug 90 19:11:36 GMT
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	I suppose this is the best place to ask this question for a friend...


My fiancee and I have been engaged for over two months now, and
something just came up that was quite a shock to me.  We were sitting
around talking, and she told me that she did not want to take my last
name when we got married.  She hadn't decided if she wanted to either a)
keep just her maiden name, or b) combine the two.  Needless to say, I
had had my heart set on my wife sharing my last name, and I am having a
hard time accepting this news.  My question is this: Does my wanting her
to take my last name upon marriage mean that I am this male-chavenistic
person looking for another way to control a woman's life?   I don't feel
this way;  I have been brought up to see this as normal and am having a
hard time going against that.


	You mail responses to me, and I'll make sure he gets them.