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From: charles@zip.eecs.umich.edu (Charles Jacob Cohen)
Newsgroups: soc.feminism
Subject: Re: Name Change Upon Marriage?
Keywords: marriage names
Message-ID: <1990Aug22.025516.25219@zip.eecs.umich.edu>
Date: 23 Aug 90 17:43:34 GMT
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A while ago a former girlfriend of mine told me that she wanted to
keep her last name after marriage (no, we didn't break up over that!
long story, and we are still in touch!).  At first this idea depressed
the heck out of me, and it still gives me twinges, but she was right.
With a career, she really *couldn't* change her name, because that is
how people will know her.  Also, if I wouldn't want to change my name
to her last name, why should she?  Then I got to thinking about the
confusion.  What if at a luncheon engagement with her collegues, they
called me Mr. HerLastName, what would I do?  I decided that I would
politely correct them by saying (and hopefully it would have been true
by that time!), "I'm sorry, but that should be Dr. HerLastName."

    - Chuck ,     charles@sparky.eecs.umich.edu