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From: BOYDJ%QUCDN.QueensU.CA@evans.ucar.EDU (Jeff Boyd)
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Subject: Re: Name Change After Marriage
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Date: 27 Aug 90 23:59:13 GMT
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Ack ... my partner told me I'd get a chuckle out of this name-change
discussion :-).

I would be offended if she asked me to take her name after marriage
(and we aren't). It would be a severe pain-in-the-posterior to deal
with the necessary changes in my active and dormant lines of communi-
cation. What on earth would induce me to ask the same of her ?!

Children ?  Here's my suggestion (um, the suggestion of boy takes
father's and girl takes mother's would be a truly and perfectly sexist
institution, and as such is ludicrous) :  for the first child, toss a
coin (no arm-wrestling :-)) and take one of the last names. Please
don't hyphenate ... it makes no sense, unless you wish to see your
great-great-grandchildren have 16-part hyphenated surnames and suffer
the social stigma of their names not fitting into gov't databases.
Subsequent children alternate surnames. This way, both proud parents
get their fair shot at having name-carrying progeny. Wow. If they want
certainty, they pop out a second bundle of joy. Effortlessly, I'm sure.