Path: utzoo!utgpu!news-server.csri.toronto.edu!cs.utexas.edu!swrinde!ucsd!rutgers!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: David.Anderson@cs.cmu.edu Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: What about the ugly people? ( anger and dating ) Message-ID: Date: 4 Sep 90 06:19:36 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Lines: 29 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu Lynn, here. While I agree that many people *at first* (and likely unconsciously) tend to ascribe various intangible qualities of personality to people based on physical appearance, getting to know someone provides the basis for being able to look beyond whatever physical imperfections, real or imagined, that person may have. And we all have some. If one is doing as much as one can to optimize their appearance (I am not talking Bakker makeup, here, but cleanliness, perhaps a reasonably nice haircut if one can afford it or find someone to do it, wearing clean clothing that is not outlandish), doing their best to cultivate a nice personality, and trying to live to please the Lord (which, IMHO, includes *serving* others less fortunate, not just having fun at social activities), one will have *friends.* Maybe some of those friends will turn into romantic possibilities, but (as we all know) such things aren't so simple. What I'm suggesting is that if one is really doing everything they can to be an attractive person--which goes *way* beyond their physiognomy--they will be attractive. And then there's the possibility to consider that these "ugly" people may well harbor prejudice against others whom they themselves consider ugly, thereby further cutting themselves off from others. (It was always amazing to me how many physically unattractive men of my acquaintance wouldn't date or try to date anyone that didn't live up to an unrealistically high standard of beauty. Two-faced, indeed!) Love can make *anyone* beautiful to the lover.