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From: Gene.Zeak@p0.f219.n137.z1.fidonet.org (Gene Zeak)
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Subject: Re: MS
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Date: 20 Sep 90 16:02:22 GMT
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Hi Adrienne,

Just thought I'd butt in long enough to say hello and make a 
couple comments.

 AB> trying hard to take care of himself and he needs your 
 AB> support not 

The lack of energy is, as we know, a real problem.  I guess I'm 
fortunate as I've never really worried about the opinions of 
other too much, but I have learned that it is possible to defend 
myself (so to speak) against the faulty thinking of other without
getting mad at them, putting them down, or exalting myself in any
way.  I look at it as they just simply don't understand and will 
explain things to them...once.  More than that if there is an 
emotional attachment, like they are family, etc.

After explaining, I know that I have done what I can and feel 
remorse that they still don't understand, but realize that to be 
a result of something in them, not my failure.  I don't mean I 
"pity" them or have any such negative feeling about them, but I 
just am sorry that there will always be those who somehow refuse 
to understand.  I can't spend my finite resources on them...that 
would be unfair to many others, including me.

 AB> I have not run into the "But you look so well" comments.  I 
 AB> think 

I have, and there is no real way to combat it.  The other person 
will either have it in them to understand that there are some 
conditions that don't show (like a flashing neon sign on your 
forehead) or they don't...simple, isn't it?  Not easy, but 
simple!

Later, Gene...

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