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From: Marda.Anderson@f9.n393.z1.fidonet.org (Marda Anderson)
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Subject: Re: Dating/Marriage
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Date: 20 Sep 90 16:06:49 GMT
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I can relate to many of your concerns about singleness versus marriage.  
On the eve of my 38th birthday I feel like I'm getting older and older 
and not getting the things out of life that I'd like.   I've had 
relationships before but many of the people ended up not being able to 
accept my blindness.  I have quite a few male friends, but a lot of the 
single ones are younger too so I know how that is.  Unfortunately, there 
are no easy answers.  I wish I had one.  Of course, I get angry when I 
hear that nobody will even give you introductions because of the way they 
feel about your income and disability.  The only thing I know to do is to 
try to get in situations where I will meet other people.  It's hard for 
me because I'm not particularly outgoing but I know I've got to make the 
effort to reach out to others even though it is fraught with risks.  
That's easier said than done, of course.  I too am on a limited income 
and realize that it is a problem but I don't think either your income or 
your disability should have any bearing on whether you marry or not,  
unless maybe you marry someone who just wants to stay home and be taken 
care of.  Cer tainly there are many people with disabilities which are 
considered severe who are happily married, so don't give up.
marda

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