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From: era@ncar.ucar.edu (Ed Arnold)
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Subject: Re: Dating/Marriage
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Date: 30 Sep 90 04:17:32 GMT
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In article <14320@bunker.UUCP> Aaron.Feldman@f204.n260.z1.fidonet.org writes:
>Index Number: 10537
>
>I am adressing this to you becasue you have been kind enough to be 
>the ice breaker for me on the SIG. I would like to address the topic 
>of marriage etc.  One of the biggest griefs in my life is that it is 
>felt by my community that I must NOT marry given my condition. There 
>is no one that will even make me an introduction.

Well, Aaron:

I assume you mean that no ABLEd person will make you an introduction.
That's their problem.

Let me tell you about a little book (actually, more like a
pamphlet) I just read.  The book is entitled "Circles of Friends",
by Robert and Martha Perske, and was published by Abingdon Press
(Nashville), 1988.

Story 4 in the book, "Friends Circle to Save a Life," tells the
story of Judith Snow.  I happened to meet Ms. Snow last year and
her disability is quite obvious: she doesn't move much of anything
below her neck, except for one of her thumbs that operates the
motor on her chair.

Yet, Ms. Snow was engaged in 1987, and is now married.  This
happened because she has broad-reaching interests and is involved
in virtually everything, in spite of her disabilities.  The key is
involvement.

Let me tell you a little secret.  I am ABLEd, but I work with a
committee that includes a woman who is a C5-C6 quad.  I like her a
lot.  I would like to ask her out, and I think she might take me up
on it, but ... I'm already married.  So, such things aren't
impossible; it's just a matter of meeting enough persons who are
open enough to see through the disability.

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