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From: sbishop@desire.wright.edu (Sue Bishop)
Newsgroups: misc.handicap
Subject: Re: Dating/Marriage
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Date: 2 Oct 90 00:38:44 GMT
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Index Number: 10686

In article <14320@bunker.UUCP>, Aaron.Feldman@f204.n260.z1.fidonet.org
(Aaron Feldman) writes:
> Index Number: 10537
> 
> I am adressing this to you becasue you have been kind enough to be 
> the ice breaker for me on the SIG. I would like to address the topic 
> of marriage etc.  One of the biggest griefs in my life is that it is 
> felt by my community that I must NOT marry given my condition. There 
> is no one that will even make me an introduction. I am only able to 
> work part time so my wages are meager and it is felt not sufficient 
> for a family. It hurts me because the community in which I live I am 
> the only single male I know of my age range (31). this makes it even 
> harder to relate and be a part of the group. I have noted a tremendous 
> change in myself these last 5 years because as one by one my friends 
> have married off and the only people I know are single students who 
> now seem to young to befriend as I had once before there is an alienation 
> and emotional isolation that was not there before. well enough of my 
> woes but if you or someone wants to pick up this topic I would appreciate 
> it.
> 

Sounds like you need to move!  Perhaps a larger community that
would have more people and also one where you would be able to be
more accepted as a person and not as someone they have known for
years.  Smaller communities seem to be more involved in watching
what others do and how they act.

Also have you attended college?  I work at Wright State University
in Dayton, Ohio.  We are THE premier university in the nation for
handicapped students, particularly people who are wheel chair
bound.  Our buildings are all connected by underground tunnels,
there are all kinds of equipment available to assist if you have a
particular handicap and the university is extremely sensitive to
the needs of the handicapped students.  Give us a look!