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From: judy@altair.la.locus.COM (Judy Leedom Tyrer)
Newsgroups: soc.feminism
Subject: Re: Girls, girls, girls
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Date: 11 Oct 90 04:24:54 GMT
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In article <12345@chaph.usc.edu> wilber%aludra.usc.edu@usc.EDU (John Wilber) writes:
>
>In any event, unless you think I am a liar you have no reason to be
>upset at me for using the word "girl" if I explain that I mean nothing
>derogatory.

According to Miss Manners, a person should be addressed or referred to
in a manner which the person prefers.  Therefore, if I ask you to call
me Mrs. Tyrer and you insist on calling me Judy, you are being rude.
In the same manner if a woman requests you to refer to her as a woman
and not as a girl and you insist on referring to her as a girl, you
are being rude.  It has nothing to do with your "intentions" and
everything to do with honoring a person's request to be referred to in
a manner that person feels comfortable with.

Judy Tyrer