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From: Julie.Aman@f120.n226.z1.fidonet.org (Julie Aman)
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Subject: Marriage/dating, etc.
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Date: 18 Oct 90 03:43:39 GMT
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Linda,
    I, too, am divorced.  I am a high partial, and I have 3 
children, two of whom inherited my disability.  The major difference 
is that *I* am the one who filed for divorce.  I, too, came from an 
old-fashioned marriage-is-forever background, *but* it takes two to 
make a marriage work and only one to really louse it up.  My 
ex-husband quit his job when I was 3 months pregnant with our second 
child.  He had had a "religious experience" and told me that he could 
no longer work for a company.  I got off my behind and hied down to 
BSVI and said, "I've got 1.3 children and I need training so I can 
get a job to support them."  I was told, "Come back after you've had 
the baby, you may change your mind."  SO, six months later with a 
3-day-old baby and a 3-year-old toddler, I hopped a bus back there 
repeated that I wanted training.  <two years of programming training 
which was supposed to only take 9 months (the school had problems)> 
I finish training and am awaiting a position as an intern (unpaid) to 
qualify for my graduation certificate from training when I discover 
that I am pregnant again.  My BSVI counselor suggests that I'm foolish, 
my school refuses to find me an internship until *after* I've had the 
baby (DO WHILE PREGNANT; DO NOTHING; ENDDO)  When my daughter is 6 
weeks old, I begin my internship.  MEANWHILE, we've been living off SSI 
and AFDC.  And when the budget was really tight, I sold my plasma. (My 
ex was afraid of needles, so *he* never went)  My ex WOULD NOT WORK! 
Not even after I was hired permanently and we placed the children in 
daycare.
    Enough is enough!  (my minister was 100% supportive of my divorcing 
this cretin, especially since he was physically and verbally abusive!)

TCOY, 
- Julie 
 ~ SLMR 1.0 ~ Intelligence is the *ultimate* aphrodisiac.

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