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From: cel@cs.duke.EDU (Chris Lane)
Newsgroups: soc.feminism
Subject: Personal Change
Keywords: consciousness raising history tradition
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Date: 17 Oct 90 21:39:28 GMT
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How did women, all fired up for liberation by CR groups, effect change
in their personal relationships?

I have a friend who really needs her husband to change his awareness,
to realize his fair share of responsibility for their family.  They've
been arguing a lot recently, and he's getting more and more
unreasonable.  She doesn't want to leave him, and can't realistically
do so, without suffereing a severe drop in quality of life, I'm not
talking about loosing the BMW, she already makes most the clothes her
family wears.

Also, of course, she still loves this man.  I simply don't know of any
plausible way I can help.  Her husband is an adult human, and there's
no way to count on him changing, but by Godd(ess), he needs to change.
What are ways to impel people to decide to change?

Chris
--
"Life's a bitch and then you die."      cel@cs.duke.edu
Down with Gender!
Enjoy today.