Path: utzoo!attcan!uunet!know!cs.utexas.edu!rutgers!dimacs.rutgers.edu!aramis.rutgers.edu!athos.rutgers.edu!christian From: farkas%qual@sun.com (Frank Farkas) Newsgroups: soc.religion.christian Subject: Re: Should a wife work outside the home? Message-ID: Date: 25 Oct 90 06:25:57 GMT Sender: hedrick@athos.rutgers.edu Lines: 77 Approved: christian@aramis.rutgers.edu [Another response to the discussion of a woman's place, responding particularly to Eric McClure >Does caring for children and making a good home >destroy someones dignity? Is caring for children a useless "contribution to >society"? >I believe that these are THE MOST IMPORTANT contributions that a person can >make to society. Society has twisted things such that it better rewards >materialism and hedonism, but to correct the problem, you don't make things >better by having women be just as materialistic and power hungry as men. --clh] I agree to a great extent with the things you have said. I have a scenerio how satan planned and suceeded to a great extent to destroy the relationship between men and the women. In the garden of Eden, when Adam and Eve were married, God said the following: Genesis 2:24 ============ "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flash." So here it goes! At first, satan impressed upon men how important he was and how much more value he had compared to the women. His work and contribution was much more valuable then his wife. He went farther, and told men that what his wife done, like taking care of children, cleaning, cooking, was a degrading thing to do. This appealed to men's ego and pride and he believed it. As a result, he started treating his wife as a second class citizen, someboby who was bellow his importance, instead of part of him. Satan didn't stop here. He proceded to tell the women the same thing, and he told her that she needs to become just like the men, if she is to be important, and if she is to do something worth while. The women believed him, and started to demand, not only that she be treated as an equal, which she should have been, but also that she be no longer do the degrading work associated with bringing up children and taking care of her household. She believed satan, and she is striving to become and to do the things which men does. Thus succeded satan to destroy the relationship between men and women, contrary to the plan and design of God. Paul said the following: I Corint 11:11 ============== "Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord." The fact is that there is no exaltation for man without the woman, and for the woman without the man. The commandment that "they shall be one flash" has not been done away with. It is still a standing commandment today. So what does this mean? Should my wife work outside the home or not? I can't answer this question without taking into consideration my wifes needs. Some time she may have a need to do things outside the home. I need to recognize her needs, and no arbitrary, phony righteousness can replace sensetivity and genuine love towards her. I love my wife, and we together preside over our family. Every one's need has to be taken into consideration. There are times when great sacrifices are needed. We need to make sure that we do recharge each other betteries, the man his wifes and the wife her husband's. >Granted, I'm being idealistic, but I think we can allow women to be "full >members of society" without putting down the main occupation women have >held throughout time. Instead we should lift it up to the level of >recognition it deserves. > >NOT mean as a flame on Alex, as I thought the rest of his post was very >good. Thanks. >------------------------------------------------------------------------- >Eric C. McClure | "Equal Rights for Unborn Women" | >lionti@umaecs.bitnet | | >Standard Disclaimer | -seen on bumper sticker | >------------------------------------------------------------------------- With brotherly love, Frank