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From: claris!netcom!jfh@ames.arc.nasa.gov (Jack Hamilton)
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Subject: Re: (2684) A friend - Part 3
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This may sound harsh, but...  John's life is his business, not yours, and
if he wants to mess it up (in your opinion), that's his privilege.  He's
made it clear that he doesn't want you to make his decisions for him.
Respect that, even though you think he's wrong.

There are support groups for people whose friends, lovers, et alia, are
HIV+.  If you can find one in your area, go.  Do it for yourself, not for
him.

You might also find it helpful to attend a few meetings of groups like
Codependents Anonymous, Al-Anon, or Adult Children of Alcoholics.  They deal 
with similar problems all the time, with a slightly different focus.
-- 
Jack Hamilton                        jfh@netcom.uucp   or   netcom!jfh@apple.com