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From: gazit@duke.cs.duke.edu (Hillel Gazit)
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Subject: Re: Are Humans Naturally Monogamous?
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Date: 29 Nov 90 19:19:24 GMT
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In article <1990Nov29.180827.10813@watserv1.waterloo.edu> alternat@watserv1.waterloo.edu (Ann Hodgins) writes:

>My own beliefs about humans and monogamy are the result of coming of age in
>the 60s.  Many people then truly believed that they could simply shed their
>'hangups' and by following their hearts could have many happy and free sexual
>relationships with a variety of men and women.
>The consequences of this were tragicomic.  People tried not to feel emotions
>like jealousy but did anyway.  Eventually, the 'laid back' hippies
>would lose their self-control and erupt into screaming and fisticuffs. 

And what does it prove?

That some hippies followed the Politically Correct standards of their
time without really accepting them.  When they realized that they didn't
like what happened they "solved" the problem with violence, and not
by some kind of soul searching and/or agreement.

Not very surprising if we remember the hippies' 
refusal to think one step ahead...

>After watching these scenarios unfold for a while and after much soul
>searching I decided that the so called 'hang ups' were a basic part of
>human nature and something we have to face and accommodate.

It maybe a basic part of your nature, or even most people's nature,
and yet not be basic part of human nature.

E.g. Most people are straights; does that prove that being straight
is a basic part of human nature?
(Don't bother to answer, it is a rhetoric question...)

>ann hodgins

Hillel                                              gazit@cs.duke.edu

"When I was young and just coming out it was also the height of the
second wave of the feminist movement (early '70's). It was true
that there was some feeling that the only true feminist was a 
lesbian, because how could you sleep with the enemy? I must say,
that for a lot of lesbians, it was an interesting time.  Suddenly,
a lot of women were interested in "trying out lesbians." Many
of us made the mistake of falling in love and it was quite painful
when these women decided to go back to their men. Now, you could
argue that these women were not really bisexuals, just curious. I
don't know. But I know that I learned to become cautious about 
falling in love with someone who wasn't committed to the lifestyle."
                                                          -- Nancy Fox