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From: Frank.Whitney@f1000.n261.z1.fidonet.org (Frank Whitney)
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Subject: Re: dealing with life in a chair
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Date: 6 Dec 90 17:16:45 GMT
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[This is from the Spinal Injury Conference]

>I read an article about care-givers and oneof the things it warned 
>are-givers avbout was not to expect gratitude from the patient. I wonder if 
>it is in the process for the careee to be the kind of person who does not 
>lash out at the care-giver. Sometimes I think the care-giver is terribly 
>frustrated because he or she expects gratitude when it is not there to be 

That might normally be the case, but this woman was my girlfriend 
first and care-giver second.  When I look back on that period in my 
life all that I see is a selfish brute that treated someone who was  
really trying hard to please him terribly.  She really didn't  deserve 
the treatment that she received from me.  The only good thing that 
came out of that treatment was that I realized that I would have to 
treat any future partner much better.  Fortunately, I've done that 
with my present wife.
Frank.

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