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From: bloch%thor@ucsd.EDU (Steve Bloch)
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Subject: Re: Sexual Attraction
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Date: 7 Dec 90 19:48:26 GMT
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davej@yang.earlham.edu (David A. Jeroslow) writes:
>Here's a quote I heard on television.
>
>"Women learn to find attractive the man they love, whereas men learn to
>love the woman they find attractive."
>...
>Just how true is this?

I don't find it particularly true.  I don't think I've ever fallen
seriously in love with a woman I'd been drooling over (figuratively,
privately :-) first, but on several occasions I've gradually become
physically attracted to a woman after becoming good friends with her.
I first noticed this in highschool, and thought it was a nice way for
the world to work.

Of course, a confounding factor is that at some subconscious level I
probably assume women who match societal norms of beauty are the least
interesting as people.  This is of course an unfair prejudice, and I
can counteract it consciously, but it's there.

--
"The above opinions are my own -- but that's just MY opinion."
Stephen Bloch
bloch@cs.ucsd.edu