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From: Marda.Anderson@f9.n393.z1.fidonet.org (Marda Anderson)
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Subject: Re: Mental  Health
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Date: 14 Dec 90 04:35:20 GMT
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If your sister believes she was the victim of abuse, she probably was.  
It's not the kind of thing you generally make up especially if there are 
flashbacks.  When I have a flashback, I can look back on it later and 
know it happened but I have no control over my actions at the time if 
it's really bad.  I'm getting better at being more aware when things are 
happening but it's a process that can take a long time.  If your sister 
was the victim of sexual abuse you might want to suggest to her that she 
read the book "The Courage to Heal" by Ellen Bass and Laura something or 
other.  It's available in most bookstores and is a very good book.  If 
she's like most people, she probably is still dealing with the reality 
that it did indeed happen.  When this all first started, I thought it 
couldn't be real, that I was just making all of it up for some reason.  
But I learned to trust myself enough to believe this was something real.  
Hopefully, she'll be able to find some kind of support group.  It sure 
helps.  
Well, I hope this was some help.  I just know this has to be scary for 
her too and I want her to know she is not alone and there is hope.  
marda

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