Path: utzoo!utgpu!news-server.csri.toronto.edu!cs.utexas.edu!uunet!ora!daemon From: synth@yenta.alb.nm.us (Synth F. Oberheim) Newsgroups: soc.feminism Subject: Re: Sexual Attraction Message-ID: <1990Dec8.231722.560@yenta.alb.nm.us> Date: 2 Jan 91 02:31:04 GMT References: <4716@yang.earlham.edu> <14782@sdcc6.ucsd.edu> Sender: ambar@ora.com (Jean Marie Diaz) Organization: yenta unix pc, rio rancho, nm Lines: 31 Approved: ambar@ora.com bloch%thor@ucsd.EDU (Steve Bloch) writes: >I don't think I've ever fallen >seriously in love with a woman I'd been drooling over (figuratively, >privately :-) first, but on several occasions I've gradually become >physically attracted to a woman after becoming good friends with her. >I first noticed this in high school, and thought it was a nice way for >the world to work. I know a lot of people that should have your philosophy, but don't. Instead they're locked into assuming that instant physical or sexual attraction is the same thing as emotional attraction (love), and dive into a relationship with someone they don't even really know ... >Of course, a confounding factor is that at some subconscious level I >probably assume women who match societal norms of beauty are the least >interesting as people. This is of course an unfair prejudice, and I >can counteract it consciously, but it's there. Actually I think that people who blindly follow societal norms *in general* are less interesting and intelligent. But you're right, assuming it is a prejudice. Sadly, though, I see this too much from unintentional observation alone, so I've found having a prejudice isn't necessary :-). ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- :: :: :: :: :: Synth (F. Oberheim) yenta unix pc (((((In Stereo))))) :: :: :: :: :: :: :: synth@yenta.alb.nm.us Albuquerque where available ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about. -- Oscar Wilde