Path: utzoo!utgpu!news-server.csri.toronto.edu!cs.utexas.edu!usc!samsung!olivea!oliveb!bunker!wtm From: kathyj@pase70.Convergent.Com (Kathy Johnson) Newsgroups: misc.handicap Subject: Re: Babies Message-ID: <16708@bunker.UUCP> Date: 9 Jan 91 21:50:42 GMT References: <16631@bunker.UUCP> Sender: wtm@bunker.UUCP Reply-To: kathyj@pase70.Convergent.Com (Kathy Johnson) Distribution: misc Organization: Unisys Network Computing Group (CT), San Jose, CA Lines: 42 Approved: wtm@bunker.UUCP Index Number: 12775 In article <16631@bunker.UUCP> Alan.Forro@f3.n157.z1.fidonet.org writes: >Index Number: 12705 > How do you reconcile these issues >with bringing a baby into the world? There are no guarantees even to parents who think they are starting out without handicaps. No matter how much money you make, a baby brings changes to your budget and lifestyle. Just think of it as a wonderfully exciting, terribly scary adventure. >I wonder if I'm physically up to the challenge, and Don't worry about this in terms of your disability, this is a fact of life for all parents. Kids have much more energy than parents do. Especially in the middle of the night! >I particularly worry about the financial responsibility, given >the drain on resources my problems present. I also worry about >my wife--how will having to care for a baby, in addition to >caring for me (another BIG baby ) affect her? Can she >handle the load? Ask her! Hey, if she thinks she can do it, her confidence will help her do it. You might want to plan ahead for the final trimester though. She might not be able to lift as much and she might feel tired out more easily from carrying around the extra weight. (the baby, not you ) >I think that's enough to get the discussion rolling--how about >it! Parents and would-be parents--please share your thoughts / >feelings / opinions with me. I really need the feedback to help >me know what to do. In the end the decision will have to be yours. My sister-in-law, Paula, has done a wonderful parenting job with my niece. Paula had a stroke when she was 10 and uses a wheel chair. She has partial use of her arms and hands and is able to stand and walk for a few steps. She raised my niece, Jessica, alone from the time Jessica was 9 months old and my brother was killed in an accident. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- Kathy M. Johnson It's only my opinion. Any resemblance to real facts Unisys, San Jose or to opinions of Unisys are purely coincidental. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------