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From: Adrienne.Barhydt@p15.f41.n105.z1.fidonet.org (Adrienne Barhydt)
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Subject: Overload
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Date: 17 Jan 91 19:53:13 GMT
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On Sat, Jan 05 Pandora Nigh (1:157/3) wrote the following to Adrienne Barhydt: 

 PN>   Hi Adrienne, I'm really sorry your having a bad time right 
 PN>now. Take a deep breath and relax a bit, I know it's hard to do, 
 PN>but just take a few deep breaths. 

thanks, that helps.
Now, instead of getting bogged 
 PN>down with the concept that I'm becoming more independent, think 
 PN>about ways to reduce the situation. I can suggest a few. First 
 PN>about not being able to drive, if the problem is the ability to 
 PN>use the foot controls then check into hand controls. 

hand controls remain a remote possibility.  i need to get my
reaction time, etc.  evaluated.  i will investigate further but i
think it is unlikely to work out.  i find that the least bit of
stress ties my muscles in knots and there is simply no way to avoid
all stress behind the wheel.  I'm sure

 PN>your having to load your own tricart is another big problem
 PN>adding to your fatigue. Have you checked into the lifts and
 PN>loaders that they have for tricarts.

i have a lift already.  i could never have loaded the scooter
without it.  but the few steps between the trunk of the car and the
driver's seat is tiring.

 PN>   How do we cope when it happens to us, well for me it was a bit 
 PN>of depression than a quick jump to anger and the decision that 
 PN>their had to be methods somewhere that would allow me to keep up 
 PN>with most things that I used to do or wanted to do. 

i am flipping around rapidly between all three.  i know there is no
point in trying to skip over the sadness at the losses.  it's just
no fun to go through.  I also
 PN>learned to be realistic.

i get that lesson too often for my liking.

 There are things that I can't do but so 
 PN>what. 

maybe i had hold of that attitude before.  i sure don't have it right now.

Get together with your husband and brainstorm, figure out 
 PN>ways to redo or modify things. 

back into the endless brainstorm.

pandora, thanks.  everything you have said makes good sense and i
know it's the direction to go.  i think i need to weather the
emotional storm a bit longer before i can get together the energy i
need for the brain storm.

adrienne 

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