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From: Donna.Siren@p19.f5.n396.z1.fidonet.org (Donna Siren)
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Subject: People Asking For Help
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Date: 2 May 91 17:34:04 GMT
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[This is from the Blink Talk Conference]

 MP> As a final note, I once read something written by a blind
 MP> person saying that they always accept help,
 MP> even if they don't need it, so that the sighted person
 MP> will ask another blind person later if he/she wants help, and this
 MP> person apparently felt that if he/she said no to an offer,
 MP> the person wouldn't ask anyone else.

I've heard that said before, too, but I think that how a person
refuses help will make more of an impression on a person than
whether or not they accept it.  I've refused help on many
occasions, but I've always been nice about it, just saying "no
thank you".  I've also known people whose help was refused angrily
and now they'll never ask another blind person if they need help,
which is very sad.  I'm sure if those same people had refused
graciously, these sighted people wouldn't feel that way.
	       Donna

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