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From: scholl@uvmark.uucp (Kathryn Scholl)
Newsgroups: soc.feminism
Subject: Re: Dealing with harassment
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Date: 7 May 91 17:33:09 GMT
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In article <9105012345.AA27996@polar.bowdoin.edu> lwalton@polar.bowdoin.EDU (Lisa Walton) writes:
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>I discovered (the hard way) that any show of emotion (embarrasement,
>anger, amusement, or even a good come-back) just encourages some men
>to keep it up.  My best defense was to keep my cool and be very polite

I definitely agree with this approach.  It works especially well with
jokes.  Anytime a male (or female for that matter), makes some
off-colored or sexual joke, I just stare at them with no emotion
whatsoever.  Many times they think it "went over my head", but at
least it makes them think that I'm just not into it, have no sense of
humor, boring, whatever.

And I don't particularly care. It gets them away from me.
(..sometimes they even shrink away embarrassed, the greatest reaction
of them all.)

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Kathryn Scholl
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