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From: cemunoz@bard (Carlos E. Munoz)
Newsgroups: alt.sex,alt.support,sci.bio
Subject: Help--having problem with missing orgasm
Keywords: orgasm, help
Message-ID: <1991May28.214636.2338@athena.mit.edu>
Date: 28 May 91 21:46:36 GMT
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A good friend of mine approached me meekly yesterday, asking me if I could give
him some advise or a few words of encouragement.  It seems that his girlfriend
"cannot have an orgasm."  I thought that it was rather strange and unusual, so
I asked him to explain further.  He said that she has not had an orgasm before
in any sexual intercourse.  She has had a couple of boyfriends before that she
has had sex with, but has not had an orgasm by any of them either.  Her first
sexual encounter was a little rushed, to her opinion, but not completely  
forced.  She had trouble with the idea of having sex with her next boyfriend  
too soon, but he was paitient and thoughtful and understood her reasons, so
he waited as long as she wanted. 

It's been over three years since her first encounter, and her boyfriend is very  
gentle and kind, and she appears to be very attracted to him, but the times  
they have had sex, no matter the duration, stimulation, or method, she has not  
been able to reach orgasm.  This does not distress her, apparently because she  
feels that she doesn't know what she is missing, and still enjoys the sex they  
have.  He, however, wishes that she could share the experience as much as he  
does.  Does anyone have any clue what is going on here?  I am neither a  
psychologist nor a doctor, so I have no clue if it is psychological or a 
biological occurance.