From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!uwvax!reid
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: Computer Dating
Article-I.D.: uwvax.648
Posted: Wed Oct 27 21:25:35 1982
Received: Thu Oct 28 07:16:05 1982
References: sytek.209


The idea of dating/not dating somebody who knows how to program computers
interest me to no end.  I have sort of come to the conclusion that it is
best to *not* find somebody with the same interests.  For one thing, that
tends to limit the scope of the relationship and leaves little to be learned
from one another.  I have always found it fulfilling to spend time with 
someone who is really into interior design, french literature; just about
anything.  I like to learn about other things, for one thing, and it is
kind of fascinating that somebody can 'get into' some of the things (I won't
pick on economics here...) that people actually *do* get into.  In another
vein, after you have initially impressed a woman/man with your ability to
debug PL/I code, then where do you stand???  I feel that the only recourse
is either open competition or avoidance of the subject, humanoids being 
humanoids.  At first, it is easy to discuss such things pleasantly enough,
but as discussions get more specific, and areas of specialty come into play,
the dangerous area of right/wrong and pride enters into the arena.  And more
often than not, it causes real
problems.  I can learn an almost infinite amount about my girlfriend's 
interests without being any threat to her, and if she cared anything about
computers, she could do the same.  The truth is that if someone finds you
interesting in general, he/she can be perfectly happy listening to you glow
as you describe binary-shift left.  By and large, I like to find someone
with different interests, or direction, but with similar temperament and
attitudes.  

Any disputes?  comments?  Well, it is true for me....

Glenn Reid