From: utzoo!laura
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: friends 
Article-I.D.: utzoo.2526
Posted: Thu Oct 14 14:22:59 1982
Received: Thu Oct 14 14:22:59 1982
References: ixlpc.2859943 

	Actually, the problem of friendships between the sexes is *even worse*
than you mentioned... at least in Toronto, Ontario.  I have a huge collection
of friends and relatives who believe that I am a) sinful or b) deceitful in
having male friends.  The rational goes like this:

	If I have friends who arent female then they ought to be marriage
	candidates.  If i am shamelessly flirting with them then it is a
	sin, but if I have no intention of marrying them then I am just
	wasting their time. 

My mother had to deal with this when she went back to work after taking time
off to have a family.  It took her a long while to realize that it was 
okay to enjoy the company of her married co-worker even though she is old 
enough to be his mother.  This sentiment still abounds.  I wonder how many
women think of themselves primarily as 'potential wives or lovers of'....

a lot that I know do.  What I wonder is what do they do once they get married?
Having obtained their life ambition doesnt it get a bit boring??


						Laura Creighton
						utzoo!laura