From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!houti!lime!burdvax!bmcjmp
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: RE: Friends - A silly story
Article-I.D.: burdvax.255
Posted: Mon Oct 25 01:53:17 1982
Received: Mon Oct 25 04:54:08 1982


While in college in a small town in Western New York, my fiance was at Syracuse
University, 250 & some odd miles away. Rather than being constantly lonely, I
Kept up my friendships with other people, most of which were male. I had one
friend in particular named Norman who I got along with excellently. We would
get together Tuesdays and Thursdays for lunch, which meant dropping over to his dorm room for tea and sandwiches (FIE ON DINING HALLS!!!) while listening to 
the loudest classical music in his possession with the door wide open, a sort
of thumbing of the nose at the punk rockers down the hall. We also went to see
movies, plays, etc., once making a "date" for the school's opera while my fi-
ance was over visiting me. We all had a good laugh over that.

By now you get the picture - two poeple of the opposite sex who were great 
friends without any sexual attraction, where one was in a romantic relationship
with another person and that other person not feeling threatened by the friend-
ship. All's cool, right? So why does my ex-boyfriend go up to Norman and ask
what is going on between us? (Besides being incredibly crass, I didn't realize 
the dear boy still cared.) So why does one of the women I work with come up to
me and ask about my "new boyfriend"? (it took me a while to figure out who she
was talking about.) Why do the guys across the hall from Norman, when they dis-
cover that I am engaged to somebody else, make remarks indicating their belief
that I am "cheating" on my fiance?

Fortunately, none of the three of us were much interested in public opinion, 
except as a source of constant amusement and many protracted fits of giggling.
My fiance and I are now happily married, Norman has found a job and will hope-
fully be able to visit occasionally, and my ex-boyfriend still asks occasional
nosy questions about me, even though he is married to my ex-roommate. All in
all, a very silly story.