From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!seismo!rocheste!heliotis
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: RE: Friends - A silly story
Article-I.D.: rocheste.172
Posted: Thu Nov  4 09:28:53 1982
Received: Fri Nov  5 01:41:18 1982
References: burdvax.255

Remember bcmjmp's (aka Barb P.) story about "platonic" relationships
with MOTOS when one is engage/married?  People got so much into the
author's sex discussion that they never gave an opinion on her
silly story; so, all she could do was giggle.  
Anyway, I have had a similar experience.  I AM A MALE.  I have been married
almost seven years now, and we are still VERY happy together (for those of
you who were curious, we do fight sometimes, but always try to talk things
out as soon as possible).  Back when I was single but engaged, I moved
from Cornell up to Rochester to work.  A few months later, a young woman
moved in to my apartment building, and I offered her any help she needed
in getting settled (no inferences, please).  The first week she was there,
I invited her up to my apt. for dinner.  During this time, my fiancee
(150 miles away) called, and I asked her to call back because I had this
other woman over for dinner right now.  After the initial shock of that
response, things started going pretty well.  The two got to meet eventually,
and I told my fiancee that, although, I did at times find this woman
attractive, there was need to worry about competition.  Well, my fiancee
and my aprtment pal soon got to be great friends.  The latter got married
a few years after we did, and the two 'girls' now work at the same place.
She and her husband are some of our closest friends.  Interestingly
enough, we are each expecting our first child now!

Is there a point to all this?  Well, yes.  Relationships such as these
ARE possible, but I can't blame people for being suspicious (some of my
acquaintances were shocked by the "dinner episode").  I myself sometimes
found it hard to keep the relationship at a platonic level, but I always
did, knowing it was best that way (I do NOT feel I married the wrong
 woman).

Whew!  Well, I'd love to hear more discussion on this.

					With aching fingers,
					Jim Heliotis